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How to find the right job for you – Simply Explained

09/16/2025 by Roy Sutton

How to find the right job for you?

If you’re wondering how to find the right job for you, then this article was written with you in mind, dear reader.

Do you enjoy your work? Do you have a job you love? Do you wake up each morning filled with enthusiasm for the day ahead?

Alternatively, maybe you feel your job allows you to earn an income, but beyond that, you can’t wait until 5 pm when the working day is over.

Perhaps you’re constantly asking the question, “How to find the right job for you?”

If that’s you, then you’re not alone.

The Lottery Question:

The acid test when you’re not sure is to ask yourself what I call the lottery question.

What does that mean? It means you ask yourself this:

If I won millions on the lottery and money ceased to be an issue, would I continue to do the work I’m doing now, or would I try something else?”

Yes, of course, if you won the lottery, you’d have a little fun with the money first, but eventually, your life would need a sense of purpose and routine again.

So how would you fill your time then?

Never work a day in your life:

If you enjoy what you do, and you’re recognized as being very good at it, then you’ll do your job well, and you’ll be successful at what you do. And if you enjoy what you do, you’ll never have to work a day in your life. Now, how good would that be?

So if you’re not happy with your job right now, the next question to ask yourself is, “What do I really want to be?”

To answer that question, you need to consider two things:

These are quite different things, but if you can find the sweet spot between them, then you have the basis for finding a job you’ll love.

So the steps to job heaven are as follows:

STEP 1: What are you good at?

Not merely competent but really good at?

Think about that question carefully and be honest with yourself.

What activities are intuitive to you? Things you can do easily and readily without having to give them too much thought?

Ask friends and colleagues for their views, and ask them to be really honest with you. Ask people you work with about the tasks for which they consider you to be the absolutely first choice ‘go-to’ person.

Gather together this information and make a list.

STEP 2: What do you enjoy doing?

Then make a list of all the things you really enjoy doing.

Which activities really give you a buzz?

What activities get you so absorbed that you really lose track of time?

What activities would you do for free or as a hobby if you couldn’t make a living at them?

Paul McCartney once said that if he couldn’t have made a living out of writing songs and playing music, he’d have done it as a hobby, simply because he loved it so much. In fact, it was his hobby before it was the way he earned a living.

What activities make you feel the same way? Make that list and don’t be reasonable.

All this requires time for reflection and careful thought, as well as feedback from other people. So do give it the time it deserves.

Don’t jump to conclusions. You do want to ensure you get it right, don’t you?

STEP 3: Which items are common to both lists?

When you have your two lists ready, the final step is to identify the common ground between them, the point at which the two lists intersect.

If you find an item that is contained on both lists then you have found the Holy Grail.

Finding something you’re genuinely good at and have a real talent for, and which is also something you really enjoy, will give you the greatest chance of success in life.

It is essential you find the common ground between your lists because:-

And if you get it right, sometimes people will sprinkle fairy dust on you too. And then a magical career beckons.

Finding your perfect job is never about luck.

Find the right work for you:

If you’re doing something you enjoy doing and you’re doing it well, you’ll stick with it long enough to get someone’s attention. And when you get their attention, you’ll dazzle them because you’re doing it well.

That’s not luck; it’s hard work, perseverance and timing.

Once you’ve identified what you want, the next question is, “How do you get it?” That’s another challenge, entirely.

Have you managed to find the perfect job for you?

If so, you’re lucky indeed. Enjoy every moment. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking;

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Roy Sutton

Roy Sutton is a writer, content creator, digital entrepreneur, and international traveller. Formerly, a CEO, corporate business executive, management consultant, and electronic systems engineer with a background in telecommunications and IT. His blog aims to both inspire readers to achieve their best lives and entertain them with the humour we all crave.

How to spot a liar and be your own lie detector

09/13/2025 by Roy Sutton

Today, I want to talk about how to spot a liar.

Introduction:

“Liar, Liar pants on fire” as the old saying goes but how to spot a liar in any situation? If only it were so easy to spot a liar, simply by looking at whether his or her pants were on fire.

Unfortunately, that’s not the way life works.

And handy as it might be to carry around a lie detector at all times, that wouldn’t be very practical either, would it? Well, not a lie detector of the physical variety anyway.

So what’s the next best thing?

The next best thing would be if we could become our own lie detector, surely?

However, would that be possible?

The answer is yes. With a little effort, it’s possible to develop the skills to spot a liar. You just need to think about the signs.

Become a lie detector:

Now, this is important because we live in a world where we’re constantly bombarded with fake news, weasel words, half-truths, untruths and outright lies.

Politicians are the worst culprits but just about everyone in life tells the occasional lie when they feel it’s necessary.

That’s human nature, of course. This means we must learn the skills that will allow us to judge whether what we are being told is the truth or a lie at any given time.

How to spot a liar:

So how do you spot a liar?

Essentially it’s all about looking for clues.

Those little signs will reveal whether what we’re being told is likely to be true or not. A lie detector looks for clues and we can too.

In the TED Talk video embedded here, Pamela Meyer offers her observations on the signs or clues to watch out for to see if someone is lying to you.

I must say that I found this video both useful and interesting and it’s worth a few moments of your time.

The ability to spot lies is a powerful skill which everyone can develop.

You can become your own lie detector and it’s worth the effort.

If you can only work on developing one skill then lie spotting would be a good one I think.

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17 inspirational quotes about leadership

09/12/2025 by Roy Sutton

I love inspirational quotes about leadership because we all have the potential to be leaders.

We demonstrate our leadership skills in given situations, where our unique abilities and skill set make us best suited to lead.

When circumstances dictate, we can all bring our unique talents to a situation to move that situation forward in a positive way.

When our talents collide with favourable circumstances, we can ‘grab the ball and run with it.’ We can seize the day and demonstrate our capabilities to the world. We can put our best foot forward and say, “In this situation, I am the one who is best equipped to lead everyone to a satisfactory outcome. So follow me, everyone.”

You can be a leader, dear reader; everyone can. We don’t always fully appreciate our hidden depths.

In essence, leadership is having the confidence to stand up and be counted.

It’s all about driving you and your team towards a winning outcome.

Here are 17 inspirational quotes about leadership to help you think about what it means and why you have the right qualities to be a leader.

Inspirational quotes about leadership (1-10):

Today a reader, tomorrow a leader. ~Margaret Fuller
Leadership is the capacity to translate vision into reality. ~Warren Bennis
Leadership is about taking responsibility, not making excuses. ~Mitt Romney
A man who wants to lead the orchestra must turn his back on the crowd. ~Max Lucado
The task of the leader is to get his people from where they are to where they have not been. ~Henry Kissinger
Leadership to me means duty, honour, and country. It means character, and it means listening from time to time. ~George W. Bush
Leadership is the art of getting someone else to do something you want doing because he wants to do it. ~Dwight D. Eisenhower
I am not afraid of an army of lions led by a sheep; I am afraid of an army of sheep led by a lion. ~Alexander the Great
A good leader takes a little more than his share of the blame, a little less than his share of the credit. ~Arnold H. Glasow
A man always has two reasons for doing anything: a good reason and the real reason. ~J. P. Morgan

Inspirational quotes about leadership (11-17):

Leadership is unlocking people’s potential to become better. ~Bill Bradley
A genuine leader is not a searcher for consensus but a moulder of consensus. ~Martin Luther King, Jr
A leader is best when people barely know he exists, when his work is done, his aim fulfilled, they will say: we did it ourselves. ~Lao Tzu
If the highest aim of a captain were to preserve his ship, he would keep it in port forever. ~Thomas Aquinas
Outstanding leaders go out of their way to boost the self-esteem of their personnel. If people believe in themselves, it’s amazing what they can accomplish. ~Sam Walton
Leadership is solving problems. The day soldiers stop bringing you their problems is the day you have stopped leading them. They have either lost confidence that you can help or concluded you do not care. Either case is a failure of leadership. ~Colin Powell
Leadership is not about a title or a designation. It’s about impact, influence and inspiration. Impact involves getting results, influence is about spreading the passion you have for your work, and you have to inspire teammates and customers. ~Robin S. Sharma

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How to build confidence and self-esteem

09/11/2025 by Roy Sutton

5 Proven Strategies for Personal Growth:

How to build confidence and self-esteem? Interesting question.

Building confidence and self-esteem is a journey that can transform your life. It’s about recognizing your worth and believing in your abilities.

Boosting self-confidence involves taking small steps each day to improve how you see yourself.

One way to start is by changing negative self-talk. When you catch yourself thinking negatively, try to replace those thoughts with more positive ones. This can help shift your mindset over time.

Taking care of your body can also boost confidence. Eating healthy foods and exercising regularly can make you feel stronger and more energized. This physical boost often leads to feeling better about yourself overall.

Key Takeaways

Self-confidence grows through daily positive actions and self-talk
Physical self-care supports mental well-being and self-esteem
Building a supportive environment helps maintain confidence long-term

Understanding Self-Esteem and Confidence

Self-esteem and confidence shape how we view ourselves and interact with the world. These qualities affect our thoughts, behaviors, and overall well-being. They can be improved through practice and self-awareness.

The Psychology of Self-Esteem

Self-esteem refers to a person’s overall sense of self-worth and value. It develops from early childhood experiences and continues to evolve throughout life. People with high self-esteem tend to have a positive self-image and feel worthy of respect and happiness.

Those with low self-esteem may struggle with negative self-talk and doubt their abilities. They often compare themselves unfavorably to others and have trouble accepting compliments.

Self-esteem impacts many areas of life, including:

Relationships
Career choices
Decision-making skills
Ability to handle stress

Improving self-esteem involves challenging negative thoughts and practising self-compassion. This process takes time but can lead to significant positive changes.

The Interplay Between Self-Esteem and Confidence

While related, self-esteem and confidence are distinct concepts. Confidence refers to trust in one’s abilities in specific situations. It can vary depending on the task or circumstance.

A person may have high self-esteem but low self-confidence in certain areas. For example, someone might feel good about themselves overall but lack confidence in public speaking.

Building confidence often involves:

Setting small, achievable goals
Practicing new skills regularly
Celebrating successes, no matter how small

As confidence grows, it can positively impact self-esteem. Likewise, higher self-esteem can make it easier to develop confidence in new areas. This creates a positive feedback loop that enhances both qualities over time.

Cultivating a Positive Mindset

A positive mindset helps build confidence and self-esteem. It involves changing how we think about ourselves and the world around us. This change can lead to better mental health and more success in life.

Challenging Negative Self-Talk

Negative self-talk can hurt a person’s confidence. It’s that voice in their head that says mean things. People can learn to spot this talk and fight back.

One way is to write down negative thoughts. Then, look for proof that they’re wrong. Often, there isn’t any. Another trick is to ask, “Would I say this to a friend?” If not, it’s too harsh.

People can also try to change negative thoughts to neutral ones. Instead of “I’m so dumb,” they might think, “I’m still learning.” This is more fair and kind.

Embracing Positive Affirmations

Positive affirmations are good things people say to themselves. They can boost mood and confidence. To use them, pick a few short, true statements.

Examples might be:

“I am capable and strong.”
“I learn from my mistakes.”
“I am worthy of love and respect.“

It helps to say these out loud each day. Writing them down works too. The key is to pick ones that feel true. Over time, the brain starts to believe them more.

Fostering Gratitude

Gratitude means feeling thankful for good things in life. It can make people happier and more confident. There are easy ways to practice it every day.

One idea is to keep a gratitude journal. Each night, write down three good things that happened. They can be big or small. Another way is to tell others “thank you” more often.

People can also try a gratitude walk. During the walk, they notice things to be thankful for. It might be nice weather or a pretty flower. This helps train the brain to see the good in life.

Practical Steps to Build Confidence

Building confidence takes effort and practice. These steps can help boost self-esteem and develop a more positive self-image.

Setting and Achieving Realistic Goals

Start by setting small, achievable goals. This helps create a sense of accomplishment and builds momentum. Break larger goals into smaller tasks to make them less overwhelming.

Make small promises to yourself and follow through. This builds self-trust and confidence in your abilities.

Track progress and celebrate small wins. This reinforces positive behavior and motivates further action.

Gradually increase the difficulty of goals as confidence grows. This allows for continuous growth and development.

Developing Assertiveness and Healthy Boundaries

Practice speaking up for oneself in a calm, clear manner. This helps build assertiveness skills.

Learn to say “no” to requests that don’t align with personal values or goals. This establishes healthy boundaries.

Express thoughts and feelings openly and honestly. This improves communication and self-assurance.

Stand up for personal rights and needs while respecting others. This balance is key to healthy assertiveness.

Cultivating Strengths and Acknowledging Success

Identify personal strengths and talents. Focus on developing these areas to boost confidence.

Take on new challenges that align with strengths. This provides opportunities for growth and success.

Keep a record of accomplishments, big and small. Review this list regularly to remind oneself of past successes.

Practice self-compassion and positive self-talk. This helps reframe negative thoughts and builds a more positive self-image.

Accept errors gracefully and learn from mistakes. This fosters resilience and continued personal growth.

Overcoming Challenges to Self-Esteem

Building self-esteem takes effort and persistence. It’s normal to face setbacks. The key is learning how to handle common roadblocks in healthy ways.

Dealing With Failure and Mistakes

Failure and mistakes can hurt self-esteem. But they’re normal parts of life. The trick is changing how you think about them.

Try to see mistakes as chances to learn. Ask: “What can I do better next time?” This helps you grow.

Be kind to yourself when you mess up. Talk to yourself like you would a good friend. Say things like “It’s okay, everyone makes mistakes.”

Make a list of times you bounced back from failure. Look at it when you’re feeling down. It can remind you that you’re strong.

Managing Anxiety and Depression

Anxiety and depression often go hand-in-hand with low self-esteem. They can make you doubt yourself. But there are ways to cope.

Try relaxation techniques like deep breathing or muscle relaxation. These can calm your mind and body.

Challenge negative thoughts. When you think, “I’m not good enough,” ask, “Is that really true?” Look for proof that you are capable.

Exercise can boost mood and confidence. Even a short walk can help. Eating well and getting enough sleep matter too.

If anxiety or depression feel too big to handle alone, talk to a doctor or therapist. They can offer more support.

Stopping the Comparison Trap

Comparing yourself to others can really hurt self-esteem. But it’s a hard habit to break. Here are some tips:

Focus on your own progress. Keep a journal of your achievements, big and small.

Remember that social media often shows only the best parts of people’s lives. It’s not the full picture.

Make a list of your unique strengths and talents. Everyone has different gifts. Yours are just as valuable as anyone else’s.

Practice gratitude. Write down three things you’re thankful for each day. This helps you see the good in your own life.

When you catch yourself comparing, try to shift your focus. Do something you enjoy or help someone else instead.

Self-Care for Self-Esteem

Taking care of yourself is key to building confidence and self-esteem. Self-care practices can boost your mood, reduce stress, and help you feel more positive about yourself.

Incorporating Exercise and Physical Activity

Regular exercise is great for self-esteem. It releases endorphins that make you feel good. Even short walks can help. Try to exercise 30 minutes a day most days of the week.

Some good options include:

Jogging
Swimming
Yoga
Dancing

Exercise helps people feel stronger and more capable. It can improve body image too. Setting and reaching fitness goals builds confidence that carries over to other areas of life.

Embracing Self-Acceptance Through Self-Care

Self-care rituals promote self-acceptance. Taking time for yourself shows you value your own wellbeing. Simple acts like getting enough sleep or eating healthy foods count as self-care.

Other ideas:

Take relaxing baths
Read enjoyable books
Spend time in nature

Treating yourself with kindness is key. Avoid negative self-talk that hurts self-esteem. Replace harsh self-criticism with gentler, more accepting thoughts.

The Role of Meditation and Mindfulness

Meditation and mindfulness can calm anxious thoughts that harm self-esteem. These practices help people tune into the present moment instead of worrying. Even a few minutes of meditation each day can make a difference.

Guided meditations are great for beginners. They lead you through the process step-by-step. Many free guided meditations are available online or through apps.

Mindfulness also helps people notice and refute negative self-talk. By observing thoughts without judgment, it’s easier to let go of self-criticism.

Nurturing a Supportive Environment

Creating a positive environment and seeking help when needed are key to building confidence. These steps can make a big difference in how you feel about yourself.

Surrounding Yourself With Positive People

Positive people can lift your spirits and boost your self-esteem. Choose friends who support and encourage you. Spend time with those who make you feel good about yourself.

Cut back on time with negative people. Their attitudes can bring you down. Instead, seek out upbeat, caring friends and family members.

Join clubs or groups with shared interests. This can help you meet like-minded folks. Look for activities that make you feel good and confident.

At work, try to connect with positive coworkers. Their outlook can rub off on you. Avoid office gossip and drama when you can.

Seeking Professional Help When Needed

Sometimes, we need extra support to build confidence. It’s okay to ask for help. A therapist or counselor can offer tools to improve self-esteem.

They can teach ways to change negative thinking. This helps you see yourself in a better light. Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) is often used for this.

Support groups can also be helpful. You’ll meet others facing similar issues. Sharing experiences can make you feel less alone.

If you’re not sure where to start, talk to your doctor. They can refer you to mental health services. Many workplaces also offer counseling programs.

Tools for Ongoing Confidence Building

Building confidence is a journey that requires consistent effort and the right tools. These methods can help you develop a stronger sense of self-worth over time.

The Power of Journaling

Journaling is a powerful tool for boosting self-esteem. It allows you to track your thoughts, feelings, and progress. Write down your daily accomplishments, no matter how small.

This practice helps reinforce positive self-belief. Try gratitude journaling to focus on the good things in your life. It can shift your perspective and improve your mood.

Use prompts to explore your emotions and experiences. For example: “What made me proud today?” or “How did I handle a difficult situation?”

Regular journaling can reveal patterns in your thinking and behavior. This awareness is key to personal growth and building lasting confidence.

Understanding the Root Cause of Low Self-Esteem

Identifying the source of low self-esteem is crucial for overcoming it. Common causes include:

Childhood experiences
Negative self-talk
Comparison to others
Past failures or rejections

Reflect on your past and present to pinpoint these factors. Ask yourself when you first started doubting your abilities.

Consider seeking help from a therapist or counselor. They can provide tools to work through deep-seated issues.

Challenge negative thoughts when they arise. Replace them with more balanced, realistic views of yourself.

Remember that your worth is not determined by others’ opinions or past events. Focus on your strengths and unique qualities.

Continuous Learning and Personal Development

Engaging in ongoing learning helps build confidence and self-esteem. Set goals for personal growth and pursue new skills or knowledge.

Take online courses, attend workshops, or read books on topics that interest you. Each new skill you acquire boosts your self-belief.

Try activities outside your comfort zone. This expands your abilities and shows you’re capable of more than you thought.

Celebrate your progress along the way. Acknowledge how far you’ve come and the effort you’ve put in.

Surround yourself with supportive people who encourage your growth. Their positivity can reinforce your own self-confidence.

Remember that personal development is a lifelong process. Be patient with yourself as you learn and grow.

Frequently Asked Questions

Building self-esteem and confidence involves various strategies and practices. These include positive self-talk, setting achievable goals, and recognizing personal strengths. Regular exercise and self-care also play important roles in boosting self-worth.

What are effective strategies to enhance self-esteem in adults?

Adults can boost their self-esteem by practicing positive self-talk. This involves challenging negative thoughts and replacing them with more balanced, realistic ones.

Setting and achieving small goals helps build a sense of accomplishment. Adults should celebrate their successes, no matter how small.

Engaging in activities that showcase personal strengths can increase feelings of competence and worth.

What can women do to improve their self-wares of approaches to build self-esteem in teenagers?

Teenage girls can improve their self-esteem by focusing on their unique qualities and talents. Encouraging them to pursue hobbies and interests they enjoy can boost confidence.

Teaching assertiveness skills helps teenagers stand up for themselves and their beliefs. This can lead to increased self-respect.

Promoting a healthy body image is crucial. Emphasizing health and strength over appearance can help build a positive self-image.

List some daily practices that can help boost confidence.

Regular exercise is a powerful confidence booster. It releases endorphins and improves overall mood and energy levels.

Practising gratitude by listing three things to be thankful for each day can shift focus to positive aspects of life.

Dressing in clothes that make one feel good can improve self-image and boost confidence throughout the day.

How can individuals overcome feelings of low self-esteem?

Identifying and challenging negative self-talk is crucial. Cognitive behavioral therapy techniques can help reframe harmful thoughts.

Seeking support from friends, family, or a therapist can provide new perspectives and coping strategies.

Setting realistic goals and working towards them can build a sense of accomplishment and self-worth.

What is the role of personal achievements in fostering self-confidence?

Personal achievements, big or small, serve as concrete evidence of one’s capabilities. They provide a foundation for self-belief.

Reflecting on past successes can boost confidence when facing new challenges. It reminds individuals of their ability to overcome obstacles.

Setting and achieving goals creates a positive feedback loop. Each accomplishment builds confidence for future endeavors.

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Public Speaking The Power of the Pause

09/07/2025 by Roy Sutton

Today, I offer you a tip for public speaking the power of the pause. This is a great tip from Brian Tracy.

If you aim to be successful, then mastering the art of public speaking is an essential skill you must develop.

If you’re a successful, high-profile individual, you can’t avoid speaking in public, at least occasionally. However much you might try to resist it, I’m afraid it’s like trying to hold back the tide. It can’t be done.

However, I recognize that public speaking can be a bit daunting even for people who are otherwise quite confident.

So if you lack confidence in this area, then don’t worry. You’re not alone, I promise you. Most people feel just like you do when they find themselves standing in front of a crowd, faced with the expectation that they’ll be able to say something meaningful and present it interestingly and engagingly, too.

The key to being interesting is developing your public speaking technique. The more you practice and build your technique, the more confident you’ll feel when you step up to the lectern.

One way to improve your public speaking technique is to learn from some of the best speakers and copy what they do. And Brian Tracy is an excellent speaker worthy of study. Personally, I find him both interesting and inspiring.

So if Brian has something to say, then listening to him is worthy of your time, I believe.

In the short but excellent video embedded with this post, Brian Tracy offers some helpful advice on the subject of public speaking. In particular, using the power of a pause to emphasize or reinforce a point being made.

An important element of public speaking is making sure that the underlying messages resonate with your audience. If they take away three or four powerful messages, then you’ll have done your job and done it well.

If you want to improve your public speaking skills, I recommend you watch this video.

You’ll learn some helpful tips, as well as one of the little-known secrets used by top public speakers.

Once again, I must say, Brian’s short video is well worth a few minutes of your time.

Public Speaking The Power of the Pause

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How to love the life you live and live the life you love

09/04/2025 by Roy Sutton

How to love the life you live and live the life you love? Now there’s a question.

Do you love the life you live? Do you enjoy your work? Life should never be just about work, but it’s a big part of our lives, so it affects how we feel about ourselves.

Do you get up each morning feeling inspired by what you’ll be doing during the day ahead?

A good question to ask yourself is the one Steve Jobs asks in the video below: “If you knew that today was the last day of your life, would you still be happy doing what you have to do today?“

Knowing we will die one day reminds us that our time is precious and we should use it wisely.

Life is short, and none of us knows when our final moment will arrive. So we must follow our heart and focus our energy on work that really matters to us.

If your work matters to you, then you’ll do it well. And if you do it well, you’ll make a difference. Make a difference and you’ll leave a legacy. Do this and you’ll love the life you live.

All of this is easier said than done, of course.

Many people experience life without any real sense of satisfaction. Far too many people experience a lifetime of disappointment and regret, too. This all adds up to people living lives they don’t love.

However, it doesn’t have to be that way. You don’t have to accept a less-than-satisfactory life.

If your life is unsatisfactory, then you need to change. And change is possible.

A good place to start is by listening to the inspiring observations from the late Steve Jobs, founder of Apple, contained in the video ‘If today were the last day of my life‘ included below. His words are thought-provoking and powerful. I found this video truly inspirational, and I recommend it to you.

How to love the life you live:

Before you watch the video, ask yourself this question. Between now and death, would you be happy to continue with the life you have right now?

No?

Then you must change and keep changing until you love the life you live.

Never accept second best because life’s far too short.

Remember: Whilst you have to make a living, you also have to make a life as well. So, have no regrets. Start making the life you want to live as quickly as possible. It’s later than you think.

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Self-promotion and why it matters if you want success

09/04/2025 by Roy Sutton

The idea of self-promotion is something with which many readers might feel slightly uncomfortable.

Perhaps it leaves you feeling a slight sense of unease, dear reader: the idea of blowing your own trumpet and making sure that others know all about what you have to offer?

By self-promotion, I am referring to personal visibility, particularly in the office or workplace.

Self-promotion:

Visibility matters:

Does personal visibility really matter that much, you may ask?

Well, that depends on how you think about it, really.

If you’re happy to plod along and accept whatever life decides you should have, then it probably doesn’t matter much at all.

However, if success is your aim or if you want to enjoy more of what life can offer, then personal visibility is essential.

Think about it. If I don’t know you exist, how can you be a solution to my problem?

How can I possibly know what you have to offer unless I have some visibility of you in action?

And then, if you hide your light under a bushel, how can you build a reputation?

Let’s face it, if I don’t know you exist, then to me you don’t exist at all.

Essential ingredient for success:

If success is your aim, then you have to be seen by people who matter, and you must make an impression on them too. That’s important, like it or not.

People need a reason to remember you. So make sure you give them a reason to remember you.

Ideally, you want them to like and respect you. Even if people love to hate you, that’s better than them being totally indifferent to you.

At least you’ll be known. You have to be visible. As the saying goes, ability without visibility is a liability. It is from your standpoint, anyway.

The product YOU:

The product that is You will only sell if people are aware it exists.

Self-promotion and personal public relations initiatives play a crucial role in building your reputation and creating demand for what you have to offer.

Humility is all very well, but diffidence is at best unwise.

You’ll never get anywhere unless you have visibility with the people that matter.

Think about the most successful people: people such as Barack Obama, Nelson Mandela, Donald Trump, Richard Branson, Elvis Presley, and John Lennon. Sadly, some are no longer with us. Nevertheless, these examples are still valid.

They all made an impression on you.

You may not like them, but you cannot ignore them. They all have or had that special quality known as presence. You couldn’t fail to notice them. They all have or had self-belief, too.

So make sure you get yourself noticed. Stand out in the crowd and give people a reason to remember you.

And remember this old Arab proverb:

Be contrary, be known.

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The secret to being a successful entrepreneur

09/04/2025 by Roy Sutton

If you’re looking for the secret to being a successful entrepreneur, this article is for you, dear reader.

Now, how often do you hear people say they’d love to start a business and become entrepreneurs?

People will tell you they’d love to be a business success, making a difference in people’s lives with great products and services.

Then they’ll add the caveat that, unfortunately, the time’s not right for them now. They’ll have a go one day, but their circumstances won’t allow it now.

However, very few who say they’ll have a go will ever actually do so. They don’t have the desire, and they probably don’t understand the secret to being a successful entrepreneur anyway.

The secret to being a successful entrepreneur:

The only way to get rich:

The measure of success for an entrepreneur is the money they make.

Let’s face it, starting any business is all about making money for the owners. Otherwise, why would anyone bother?

Starting your own business can be a fantastic thing to do, and, for most people, it’s the only way they’ll ever have the chance to make some serious money.

Certainly, you’re unlikely to get seriously rich working for someone else.

However, to succeed in business, you must first get started.

The critical ingredient to success in business is getting off your butt and doing something about it.

And the best time to do it is now. Last year or the year before might have been better, but otherwise, now is always the best possible time. It’s simple, really.

The secret to making money:

Getting off your butt is one thing, but how do you make money as an entrepreneur? Well, dear reader, pull up a chair and listen carefully, for the secret is very simple.

The secret to making money as an entrepreneur is to solve problems for people. To make their lives easier in some way.

Solve problems; make money:

Every product you sell must solve a problem for the customer.

So, if you can identify problems for which people need solutions and offer those solutions, also known as products, at value-for-money prices, then you can make money and be successful.

Remember this, too: you don’t necessarily have to be the first with a solution, either. If you can improve on an existing solution in some way, then you can still make some serious money. If you can ‘build a better mousetrap,’ then people will buy it.

For instance, Steve Jobs and Apple were not the first to offer cellular mobile phone handsets, nor was Samsung. Yet these two companies both dominate the market for smartphones right now.

Make a difference:

Has your appetite for business been whetted, dear reader?

Do you have any ideas you think might make a difference?

You do?

Then you have to be prepared to take action. Having ideas means nothing unless you take action.

Ideas are ten a penny. Plenty of people have good ideas that never see the light of day.

Occasionally, people have good ideas but leave them unexplored for too long, and then someone else comes along with the same idea and makes a significant profit from it. That’s happened to me. I came up with a great idea for a t-shirt slogan. I failed to act, and someone else came along with the same idea; it’s currently a bestseller on Amazon. My loss; their gain.

Having ideas is easy. Implementation is the challenging part, and there are too few people with the drive and determination to turn a good idea into a viable business opportunity and then generate revenue from it.

So you must take action if you want to be a successful entrepreneur.

Not tomorrow, not next week, not next year, but right now.

Become a ‘doer’:

In my experience, true entrepreneurs are doers; they’re not dreamers.

So go on, get started right now.

Solve people’s problems, and you’ll be on the road to riches. It can be done, and people do it. And so can you! Go for it.

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How to love your job when you hate it

08/05/2025 by Roy Sutton

How to love your job when you hate it? A question I’ve been asked numerous times. My response is always the same. The best way to appreciate the job you have is to imagine your life without it.

That starts with taking a closer look at what’s good about the job. There’s usually some aspect of the job we enjoy, even if it’s only the swivel chair we sit in.

Life’s too short to hate your job

Do you hate your job, dear reader?

Do you tell everyone, at every opportunity, that you hate your job?

By telling everyone you hate your job, do you imagine they’ll be impressed or, in some way, feel sympathy for you?

Maybe you think that by doing this, your fellow workers will regard you as someone unafraid to speak their mind.

Perhaps you think that in the eyes of your fellow workers, this approach will make you look good.

Hold that thought, and then consider this question. How do you feel about working with someone else who’s always moaning about how unhappy they are at their job?

Do you admire that person?

Do they impress you with their negativity?

I’m guessing your response to this question will be negative. I’m sure you’ll be unimpressed with such people. After all, most of us are.

Everyone hates a moaner

If you imagined that moaning about how unhappy you are was the best way to get people on your side, then seriously, you need to think again. Everyone hates a moaner, whatever indications you’ve heard to the contrary. Let me tell you this: no one’s impressed.

Your colleagues may not say so, but they’ll find your negativity irritating at the very least. It’s probably driving them all nuts.

Life’s short, and it’s hard enough for most people. So having some moaning Minnie constantly bringing them down makes life harder.

Constant negativity is just a pain in the rear for most people.

Imagine your life without your job

If your current mindset means you hate your job right now, then the first thing to do is start changing that mindset. Start by looking at your job differently.

How?

Well, imagine your life without your current job. What would that be like? Think about that question carefully, and be honest with yourself.

Without your job, you’d have nothing to do, no reason to get out of bed, nowhere to go, no sense of purpose, nothing to challenge you, no money, and you’d be without the camaraderie of your fellow workers. You’d probably feel lonely and lack any real social life, too.

How would that make you feel?

Would you feel better about yourself without those things?

I’m sure if you’re honest with yourself, you’ll recognise that work gives us far more than we realise. I don’t think you’d be happy without all those things mentioned above.

So the best way to begin appreciating your job is to imagine your life without it.

No job is perfect

Most jobs come with an element of frustration and a spoonful of tedium. That’s life.

No job is perfect, but no job is all bad either.

It’s just a matter of how you choose to look at things.

If you focus on the bad things, then everything will seem bad. However, if you focus on the good bits, then your job can begin to look very different, and you’ll start to feel more positive about your work.

The fact is, we all need to do something with our time, surely?

Even millionaires need something to fill their time.

There are only so many holidays you can take and so much shopping you can do.

Eventually, everyone needs a sense of purpose, and we all want to feel that we’re making a contribution to the world around us.

Life’s a short movie

Life’s far too short to be unhappy.

So if you hate your job, then you have two choices:

You find another job, or
You start looking differently at your current job.

And before you start searching the vacancy columns or the job websites, think carefully about what you might be throwing away should you leave your current job.

Moving to another job doesn’t guarantee that you’ll be any happier.

Neither will it guarantee that you’ll find the perfect job for you.

So it’s worth thinking seriously about your current job first. At least it’s the devil you know.

Can you begin to look at your current job differently? Perhaps you need a little help.

I really hate my job

Here’s a great motivational speech from the late Zig Ziglar that you might find very useful.

It’s full of great advice and well worth a few minutes of your time.

If you don’t like your job right now, then you really should watch it.

Even if you do like your job, watch it anyway. I found it truly inspirational. So take a look at it now.

How to love your job when you hate it (Video)

Further Listening:

I’m a huge fan of Zig Ziglar, but I recognise that he had an evangelical presentation style that’s not to everyone’s taste.

However, if you can get beyond that presentation style, then his words are inspirational and informative.

I particularly like his audiobooks, which I listen to constantly when I’m driving.

One audiobook I can recommend is:

The Born to Win Seminar

Listen to this, and I promise you it will help you discover your untapped greatness and guide you towards greater success in life.

I bought my copy of this audio program for my library, and it was well worth the price. I listen to it over and over again, and I always find something new in his words.

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Brian Tracy: Habits of success anyone can learn

07/26/2025 by Roy Sutton

Today’s theme is the habits of success.

To achieve success, you must develop good habits. That’s a reasonable statement, don’t you think, dear reader?

However, what habits should they be? That’s not so easy to answer, I hear you say.

Well, fear not; in the video included here, Brian Tracy presents some interesting ideas on the habits of success.

I admire Brian Tracy, and I listen to his audio programs frequently in my car.

In my opinion, Brian Tracy is always excellent and always full of wise words and sound advice.

And I can tell you that this video is well worth your time.

Let Brian tell you more about the habits he believes are consistent with achieving success. Please take a few minutes out of your schedule, as you will find it well worth the investment of your time.

Remember: To be successful at whatever pursuit you choose, it must matter to you. It must really, really matter, to the point of obsession. Success doesn’t happen by accident. It’s the result of dedication, focus, and a willingness to do whatever it takes.

Habits of Success:

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The Lottery Question:

Never work a day in your life:

STEP 1: What are you good at?

STEP 2: What do you enjoy doing?

STEP 3: Which items are common to both lists?

Find the right work for you:

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Key Takeaways

Understanding Self-Esteem and Confidence

The Psychology of Self-Esteem

The Interplay Between Self-Esteem and Confidence

Cultivating a Positive Mindset

Challenging Negative Self-Talk

Embracing Positive Affirmations

Fostering Gratitude

Practical Steps to Build Confidence

Setting and Achieving Realistic Goals

Developing Assertiveness and Healthy Boundaries

Cultivating Strengths and Acknowledging Success

Overcoming Challenges to Self-Esteem

Dealing With Failure and Mistakes

Managing Anxiety and Depression

Stopping the Comparison Trap

Self-Care for Self-Esteem

Incorporating Exercise and Physical Activity

Embracing Self-Acceptance Through Self-Care

The Role of Meditation and Mindfulness

Nurturing a Supportive Environment

Surrounding Yourself With Positive People

Seeking Professional Help When Needed

Tools for Ongoing Confidence Building

The Power of Journaling

Understanding the Root Cause of Low Self-Esteem

Continuous Learning and Personal Development

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