Why you should teach your children that failure doesn’t matter

Failure1. What is success?

We all want our children to reach their full potential, surely?

We want our children to lead lives in which they’re happy and fulfilled, I’m sure you’ll agree dear reader.

My definition of success is continually doing the best I can to exploit my full potential whilst making sure that I enjoy each and every day as it comes. I don’t want to live forever but I do want to live now.

I want to enjoy the work I do. I want to be stretched, growing in character and strength all the time. And even as an increasingly mature I adult, I remain keen to learn something new every day.

My philosophy about life and success I gained from my parents and it’s something I try to pass on to the next generation.

Essentially my philosophy is that it’s better to try and fail than it is to spend my life wondering what might have been. If I have a go, either I’ll succeed or I’ll learn a valuable lesson. And if it proves to be a lesson then it will be one I won’t forget. In other words, I can’t lose.

2. There’s no such thing as failure:

There are two things you should always remember about what we call failure:-

  1. There’s no such thing as failure. Just outcomes you didn’t want and opportunities to learn and try again.
  2. Failure is just an outcome; never a person. A person cannot be a failure, ever!

Unfortunately we often label people as failures and the burden of that label can be become something which is difficult to bear and even harder to shake off. Parents and teachers can often be guilty of this, however unintentionally.

Teach children that it’s much more important to try and they should never, ever worry about failure.

If children can appreciate that failure is just an outcome other than the one they wanted then they’ll be better placed to learn the lessons and do better next time.

And those lessons learned will be more valuable to children than anything an adult can tell them.

If you tell me the stove is hot I may not remember. If I burn my hand on a hot stove, I’ll only do it once and I’ll never forget. That’s a valuable commodity known as experience.

If we keep trying we’ll learn and if we keep learning eventually we can all be successful.

Failure3. Teach your children well:

The best way to teach children about success is to teach them that failure is not a bad thing. In fact it’s an essential ingredient for achieving success.

Teach children never to fear failure. As long as they learn the lessons then failure doesn’t matter at all.

So teach your children to have a go and to make sure they enjoy the experience along the way too.

Let them know that either they’ll succeed or they’ll learn a lesson. Either way they’ll gain and of course they’ll grow in character as well.

And remember also; we can only truly appreciate success if we’ve experienced a few failures along the road. And to fail occasionally helps to keep us humble too and that’s no bad thing, is it?

4. Force for good

If you think about it, failure is in fact a force for good.

Failure is simply a natural part of life and learning. No one starts out as a master. Every successful person started out as a complete beginner.

Everyone fails occasionally and at any given time we’re more likely to fail than we are to succeed.

Learning from failure makes us wiser of course and it makes us tougher too. It builds character.

Failure is never desirable as such but it’s very useful. It’s also inevitable, at least sometimes.

The only way to avoid failure is to avoid risks and challenges and then you cannot learn and you cannot grow as a person. If you never try anything you can never be anything. And what would be the point of that?

Failure5. Secret to success

The secret to success is to use all your unsuccessful experiences as stepping stones to achieving your aims.

Failure is never final and we should not allow an unsuccessful experience to discourage us or cause us to give up. All too often people give up just as they’re on the verge of success.

REMEMBER: Failure is not, nor will it ever be, a person.

Next time your child gets an outcome he or she didn’t want, reassure him or her that though it might be disappointing, it’s not a problem and nor should they think otherwise.

Always reassure them that a failure is simply an opportunity to learn a lesson and try again. However make sure they recognize the lesson to be learned.

Anyone experiencing failure should simply reflect on their actions and the outcome to discover the underlying lesson within.

Then we simply use the knowledge gained to guide future efforts.

Perseverance and persistence will get us there in the end.

Teach your children well but never, ever allow them to believe they’re in any way a failure. Just encourage them to use the experience of undesirable outcomes to be a bit smarter next time.

Do that and you’ll prepare them well for their life ahead.

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What is failure? Here are 10 quotes to put it into perspective

What is failureWhat is failure? We hear this word frequently but what does it actually mean?

It is so easy to be crushed by a sense of failure and yet actually there is no such thing as failure in my opinion. There are only outcomes that we didn’t want and lessons to be learned.

It’s not about how many times you get knocked down dear reader; it’s how many times you can get back up again and have another go until you get it right.

You cannot truly enjoy the victory when it comes, if you have not first known defeat.

You cannot achieve anything without the experience of at least the occasional failure along the way. Every master of their craft started out as a beginner.

Yes, that is true. Before anyone was a success, they started out as a complete beginner. And the road from beginner to achiever and master of your craft is inevitably littered with mistakes and failures. These are significant only for the lessons they teach us.

If you’re determined, persistent and hungry for success, you’ll just keep trying until you get where you want to go. If you really want to succeed, you’ll learn the lessons and then find a way to achieve your goal and realize your dream. If not you’ll just make excuses.

Never allow yourself to be overwhelmed by a sense of failure. It’s never fatal, at most it’s just a minor setback from which you can recover. Above all, never, ever give up until you get to where you were trying to go.

Success can be yours if you want it badly enough. And remember this; it is better to try and fail than never to have tried at all.

Here are 10 quotes to help you put the idea of failure into perspective.

What is failure?

  1. I can accept failure; everyone fails at something. But I can’t accept not trying. ~Michael Jordan
  2. Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts. ~Winston Churchill 
  3. I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work. ~Thomas A. Edison
  4. There are no secrets to success. It is the result of preparation, hard work, and learning from failure. ~Colin Powell
  5. Remember your dreams and fight for them. You must know what you want from life. There is just one thing that makes your dream become impossible: the fear of failure. ~Paulo Coelho
  6. You build on failure. You use it as a stepping stone. Close the door on the past. You don’t try to forget the mistakes, but you don’t dwell on it. You don’t let it have any of your energy, or any of your time, or any of your space. ~Johnny Cash
  7. Far better is it to dare mighty things, to win glorious triumphs, even though checkered by failure, than to rank with those poor spirits who neither enjoy nor suffer much, because they live in a gray twilight that knows not victory nor defeat. ~Theodore Roosevelt
  8. Remembering that I’ll be dead soon is the most important tool I’ve ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything – all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure – these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important. ~Steve Jobs
  9. It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might has well not have lived at all, in which case you have failed by default. ~JK Rowling
  10. Winning is great, sure, but if you are really going to do something in life, the secret is learning how to lose. Nobody goes undefeated all the time. If you can pick up after a crushing defeat, and go on to win again, you are going to be a champion someday. ~Wilma Rudolph

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21 thought-provoking quotes about success

Quotes about successMany people say they want to be successful but few achieve success in any meaningful way.

That said one person’s success is another person’s failure.

In fact, we all have different ideas about what constitutes success.

For some people it’s all about owning a million dollar mansion, whereas for others just being happy and contented would be their measure of success.

So, what does success mean to you?

In today’s post there are 21 thought-provoking quotes about success to help you reflect on what success actually means to you.

However you choose to define success it is possible to get to where you’d like to be with effort and determination.

Just decide where you want to go and don’t stop until you get there; though not before you’ve read today’s thought-provoking quotes about success.

Not only are they thought-provoking, I hope you’ll find them motivating and inspirational too dear reader.

Quotes about success:

  1. Amateurs sit and wait for inspiration, the rest of us just get up and go to work. ~Stephen King
  2. Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success. If you love what you are doing, you will be successful. ~Herman Cain
  3. Do not be embarrassed by your failures, learn from them and start again. ~Richard Branson
  4. Victory is sweetest when you’ve known defeat. ~Malcolm S. Forbes
  5. The best years of your life are the ones in which you decide your problems are your own. You do not blame them on your mother, the ecology, or the president. You realize that you control your own destiny. ~Albert Ellis
  6. You’ve got to get up every morning with determination if you’re going to go to bed with satisfaction. ~George Lorimer
  7. If you want to make an easy job seem mighty hard, just keep putting off doing it. ~Olin Miller
  8. The successful man is the one who finds out what is the matter with his business before his competitors do. ~Roy L. Smith
  9. Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world. ~Lucille Ball
  10. Quotes about successSuccess is not measured by what you accomplish, but by the opposition you have encountered, and the courage with which you have maintained the struggle against overwhelming odds. ~Orison Swett Marden
  11. You have to learn the rules of the game. And then you have to play better than anyone else. ~Albert Einstein
  12. Things may come to those who wait, but only the things left by those who hustle. ~Abraham Lincoln
  13. Don’t let what you cannot do interfere with what you can do. ~John R. Wooden
  14. Spend eighty percent of your time focusing on the opportunities of tomorrow rather than the problems of yesterday. ~Brian Tracy
  15. Success means having the courage, the determination, and the will to become the person you believe you were meant to be. ~George Sheehan
  16. The secret of success in life is for a man to be ready for his opportunity when it comes. ~Benjamin Disraeli
  17. There are two types of people who will tell you that you cannot make a difference in this world: those who are afraid to try and those who are afraid you will succeed. ~Ray Goforth
  18. Don’t wait. The time will never be just right. ~Napoleon Hill
  19. You can teach a student a lesson for a day; but if you can teach him to learn by creating curiosity, he will continue the learning process as long as he lives. ~Clay P. Bedford
  20. The first step toward success is taken when you refuse to be a captive of the environment in which you first find yourself. ~Mark Caine
  21. Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day-in and day-out. ~Robert Collier

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