Encourage kids to fail if you want them to succeed


As children we were taught to believe that to fail is inherently a bad thing; something about which we should almost feel a sense of shame.

The adults around us presumably believed that this would in some way motivate us to work so hard that we wouldn’t fail. This is misguided logic at best, in my opinion.

The problem with this approach is that it teaches children that the best way not to fail is not to try in the first place. If you don’t try then you can’t fail, right? Kids have always been quick to recognise the easiest way to neutralise a problem.

The problem with that is they then carry the lesson learned into their adult life. So this approach actually represents a disservice to kids in reality. It discourages them to try.

And if you don’t try, how can you ever master anything? If you don’t rise to a challenge, how can you ever grow in character?

No one ever started out as a master of anything. It doesn’t matter which line of work you consider or which subject you study, everyone starts as a complete beginner. And it doesn’t matter how talented you are, you’ll still experience failures along the road to mastering any craft.

However the lessons we learn from failure are more valuable to us than anything anyone can tell us. You can read textbooks as many times as you like but there’s no substitute for real experience.

If you get your fingers burned you don’t forget how it happened and why.

Success is never achieved without some failures along the way. Every successful man or woman will tell you that. It’s inevitable and it’s all part of life and learning. It’s how we gain that quality known as experience.

There’s actually no such thing as failure. Only outcomes we don’t want. And every time we try, we refine our skills until eventually we get it right.

What we refer to as failure is nothing more than a form of feedback.

And of course trying something and failing does not make you a failure. Failure is an outcome not a person.

It’s better to try and fail than never to try at all. Put simply, you cannot fail. Either you succeed or you learn a lesson. Either way you win.

You only become a failure if you give up trying.

If you have kids, encourage them to do their best and accept that they will fail occasionally. Make sure they understand that to fail is positive because they’ll learn valuable lessons and they’ll get better and grow the more they try.

Just encourage them to never, ever give up and never stop believing in themselves. Kids need encouragement more than they need criticism.

The most important message to your child is that they are as good as anyone and, if they try and keep trying, they will succeed eventually.

And if after trying hard it doesn’t work out for them, for whatever reason, then at least they’ll know they gave it their best shot and they won’t spend their lives wondering what might have been.

Kids should be taught that they should never fear failure. If you want your kids to succeed then encourage them to fail. However encourage them to keep trying too.

And remember this; kids should not fear failure and neither should you. Wherever you are on life’s journey, never be afraid to have a go. You’re as good as anyone too.

Recommended Reading

If this post has whetted you appetite to improve your understanding of the link between failure and success then you might try this book:-

The Ten Times Rule: The Only Difference Between Success and Failure by Grant Cordone

If you’re determined to settle for nothing less than success then this book will help you. This book will open your eyes in terms of what is required to achieve real and sustainable success.

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