Brian Tracy: Habits of Success


If you want to be successful, then you must develop good habits. However what habits should they be? Fear not, in this video, Brian Tracy presents some interesting ideas on the habits of success.

Brian Tracy is always excellent and always full of wise words and good advice. This video is well worth your time. Let Brian tell you more about habits which he believes are consistent with achieving success.

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Wealth Creation Strategies

Here is Brian Tracy with some advice on what he sees as the top wealth creation strategies for financial success. Brian is another of my favourite motivational speakers. His messages are simple yet very effective. If you can spare the time, Brian Trace is always worth a listen.

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The Power of Belief

Here is an interesting talk from Eduardo Briceno given at TEDxManhattanBeach. In it he discusses mind-set, success and the power of belief.

If success is your aim or if you’re keen to encourage someone else to be successful then this video is worth watching.

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Want to know the key to success?

Do you want to know the key to success? Success starts with making a decision. You decide what you want to achieve; then you decide that you will go out and get it. Once your decision has been made you pursue your objective with determination and tenacity.

In 1960 US President John Kennedy made a speech in which he said by the end of that decade the United States would put a man on the moon. And in 1969 the United States fulfilled that promise made by Kennedy.

Kennedy didn’t know how they would achieve the goal he articulated in 1960. He believed in their ability to do it; he believed they could develop the technology to do it; and he made a decision that they would do it; but ultimately in making his promise there was an element of risk.

There is risk in everything we do and nothing exceptional will ever be achieved without some degree of risk along the way. Lesser men and women would allow fear to stop them. However men and women destined for great things will feel the fear and do it anyway.

Greatness cannot be achieved without paying your dues along the way. Anything worth having will come with a price, namely blood, sweat and tears. So be bold, be strong and pursue your dream with passion.

Yes it will be challenging mentally and emotionally. And yes, plenty of people will tell you that it’s not possible or that you’re not quite good enough.

Well don’t listen to the naysayers and negative nellies. If you really want it, whatever it is, just keep pushing and never, ever given up until you get to where it is you want to go.

Greatness can be achieved by anyone with sufficient determination. So whatever it is you really want to do, just go out there and do the damn thing. Do it now. Believe you can and you will.

If you’re still not convinced then watch this video which is a really fantastic motivational speech. Watch it now and I promise you, you won’t be disappointed. And the bottom line is; you’ve got to be fearless.

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How to set goals and achieve them

What is life really all about? Paying bills and drifting aimlessly through life is not living it is merely existing. Surely living life should be our aim. A life well lived should include some notable achievements, if you are to realise your full potential and leave a legacy behind you. However achievements require proper goal setting if they are to be accomplished.

This article explores goal setting and how goal setting can be translated into achievement. It is by accomplishing goals that you will get a genuine sense of achievement and you feel your life has meaning.

Why are some people successful and others not so? Successful people generally are no more intelligent than unsuccessful people. In fact many highly intelligent people are unsuccessful in life. It’s not whether you’re clever. Successful people know what they want and they’re determined to get it. Successful people set goals for themselves based on what they want and they pursue those goals with determination and persistence.

You cannot hit a target you cannot see. You cannot turn your dreams into achievements without goal setting. However goals don’t set themselves, nor do they accomplish themselves. It requires effort from you. So get started; identify what matters to you; set goals; keep going; and achieve your aspirations.

Goals must really, really matter:

The act of goal setting alone does not guarantee success. Many people set goals which they fail to achieve. Why do you think that might be? The simple answer is that goals often fail because the goal setter didn’t want the potential prize badly enough.

For a goal to be achieved the outcome if it’s accomplished must matter to you. If you don’t regard the outcome as being sufficiently worthwhile then you won’t have the motivation to see the goal through to conclusion.

The goal must mean enough to you if the extra effort to achieve it is to seem worthwhile. Make no mistake any goal worth achieving will require a lot of determination, persistence and hard work. Nothing worth having ever comes easy, that’s for sure.

To quote Napoleon Hill, “Desire is the beginning of achievement.” You must have the desire and the outcome must matter to you.

Change your thinking; change you life:

How we think matters too. You can’t achieve much with negative thinking. A positive mind with a genuine sense of direction will take you as far as you really want to go. There are no limits for anyone with enough self-belief and a real sense of what they really want from life. Believe you can and you will. Believe you can’t and you won’t.

The way your mind is currently programmed may be getting in the way of you getting what you want but it doesn’t have to be that way. You can change your thinking and, if you do, it will change your life.

Dream lofty dreams:

Don’t be afraid to have a vision for yourself that is truly inspiring. Don’t be afraid to have dreams big enough to be just a little bit frightening. It is on the edge of your comfort zone that you’ll begin to feel you are really living life to the full.

And your goals should be big enough to stretch you and inspire the desire within you. Be realistic of course but don’t make goals too easy. Anything easy will not give you a sense of achievement, that’s for sure.

Revisit your inner child:

As children there were no limits to our dreams and what we felt we could achieve in life. We all had grandiose ideas about what we might be. Then life took its toll and we all got a little more cautious and a lot less ambitious. Self-doubt crept in and we began to adjust our ambitions downwards. We feared failure and any resulting embarrassment much more than we desired real success.

We didn’t realise that it’s better to try and fail than it is to spend the rest of our lives wondering what might have been. We feared failure but we didn’t realise there’s no such thing as failure, just opportunities to learn and start again.

So goal setting starts with pretending you’re a kid again and sitting down with a notebook and a pen or a tablet computer and start brainstorming. Then just write down a list of 101 of your biggest dreams and goals. Don’t think about whether they can be achieved, just write them down.

From that list identify what really, really matters to you.

And remember this; if the goal really, really matters to you then you will find a way to achieve it. Goals only fail when they don’t matter enough.

Remember life requires balance:

Knowing what you want and why it matters to you will help you achieve your goals.

However never forget your goals should promote balance in your life too. In setting your goals they should benefit you but they should also benefit your loved ones too.

If your loved ones can understand the benefits to them as well as you then they are much more likely to support you in the achievement of your goals. And you will need their support. No one ever achieves anything in complete isolation.

Never, ever lose sight of your loved ones in anything you choose to do.

The art of goal setting:

Start by deciding exactly what you want to achieve and then make a firm commitment to it. You must feel genuinely motivated by your goals.

These goals should be:-

  • Specific
  • Measureable
  • Attainable
  • Relevant
  • Time-limited

This is the so called SMART technique.

Once you have goals you must write them down. This will make them feel much more tangible.

You must share them with other people too, especially your loved ones.

This approach will have a subliminal effect on you and help in the process of achieving your goals.

Then you must plan the steps you will need to take if you are to realize your goal. The planning process will almost certainly result in a big goal being broken down into a series of smaller goals and activities.

Once you have a plan you can cross off each activity as it’s completed.

6 Steps to Goal Setting:

To summarize the goal setting process:-

  • A goal must be specific
  • A goal must be time-limited
  • A goal must be written down
  • A goal must have a plan
  • A goal has a price to be paid
  • A goal must be in your thoughts every day

11 reasons why goals fail:

If goal setting is something you’ve tried with little or no success then you might feel it would help you if you had a better idea of why goals fail. Fear not dear reader help is at hand.

In the embedded video Vic Johnson from Goals2Go.com provides some interesting insight into motivation and goal setting. His words are wise and certainly they will make you think.

It’s a fairly short video but well worth your time if your aim is to improve your goal setting technique and set goals that will result in achievements for which you can be truly very proud.

Further Study:

Brian Tracy has produced an excellent book and audiobook on goal setting. This offers three and a half hours of useful advice and guidance. The book is called:-

GOALS! How to Get Everything You Want – Faster Than You Ever Thought Possible.

In this book Brian Tracy explores the key elements of goal setting and the actions necessary to set and accomplish goals of any size. This book will help you determine your strengths, your true values and goals that will really matter to you. Brian Tracy explains how to build your self-esteem and confidence and how to overcome every obstacle and problem. He explains how to respond to challenges and how to continue moving forward regardless of what’s happening around you. This book is a ‘mental fitness’ program for character development and it can help you become the kind of person who can achieve any goal.

I bought the audiobook version and I listen to it frequently when I’m driving. This would be a great addition to your personal development library and it is well worth the cover price. Buy it today.

You can check it out and buy it from Amazon if you CLICK HERE.

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How to speak so people will listen

There’s an old saying; it’s not just what you say but the way that you say it. How something is said is as important as the words being spoken. We can use exactly the same words in different ways and we will deliver completely different messages. How something is said also has an impact on whether people listen to us or not. In the video included here Mr Julian Treasure offers some excellent insight into how to speak so people will listen.

His underlying message in the video is that we must learn to speak with power if we are to get our messages across to other people.

Julian Treasure suggests there are a number of habits we must avoid if we are to speak with power. He says in his view there are Seven Deadly Sins of Speaking, albeit he does note that this is not intended to be an exhaustive list. The deadly seven are:-

  1. Gossip: Speaking in an unkind way about other people.
  2. Judging: People unlikely to listen if they feel they’re being judged.
  3. Negativity: It’s hard to listen to people with a negative attitude.
  4. Complaining: It’s hard to listen to a moaner too.
  5. Excuses: You won’t be taken seriously if blame is always elsewhere.
  6. Exaggeration: This can border on lying and who listens to a liar?
  7. Dogmatism: Where facts are confused with opinions.

So if we suffer from all or some of these deadly sins, can we change? Yes, of course but it takes a little work and a better understanding of how improvements can be achieved.

In the video Julian explains that there are four cornerstones to powerful speech. He uses the mnemonic HAIL to explain these as follows:-

  1. Honesty : Being clear and straight
  2. Authenticity : Being real and being yourself
  3. Integrity : Being true to your word
  4. Love : Wishing people well. We all like to be appreciated.

However understanding these cornerstones is only the beginning of the process because, as stated earlier, how you say what you’ve got to say is important too.

Julian then discusses aspects of speaking such as Register; Timbre; Prosody; Pace; Pitch; Volume; and the use of Silence. To address many of these issues you may need the help of a voice coach of course but knowing about them is a good start.

Julian also suggests some simple voice warm-up exercises for you to use before you give a speech. They’re so easy you can use them immediately.

Being a TEDTalk you’d expect this video to be both interesting and useful and it doesn’t disappoint. I found Julian Treasure’s ideas fascinating and if you’re someone who regularly speaks in front of an audience, large or small, then I am confident that you’ll find this video helpful.

This video has had almost 14 million views on YouTube so clearly Julian Treasure’s ideas have resonated with a significant audience already.

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Here are 3 of life’s lessons learned

Many readers will be familiar with the lessons here but perhaps others will not. That’s fine but it all comes down to experience. However don’t feel you need to make all the mistakes yourself. You can choose to bear in mind the lessons others have learned. Well here are three of life’s lessons learned that you would do well to bear in mind.

1. Money can’t make you happy:

If you’re not happy without money then having money won’t change how you feel about yourself. We experience happiness not through the things we purchase but through our relationships with other people. People are social animals.

If you want to be happy you must never lose sight of the most important people in your life, i.e. family and friends. Spend time with them and enjoy their company, especially your children. Make the most of every minute you have with your loved ones.

Yes of course, go out there and make some money. Manage it carefully and invest some of it too. Enjoy your some of your money and buy nice things occasionally too. Life’s too short not to enjoy some of what you have from time to time.

However never focus on money and work to the exclusion of your family and friends. Without them you have nothing. Money is important but the people in your life are more important.

2. Life is too short to do a job you hate:

You should never do anything for money alone. Yes you need an income and yes it’s nice to have plenty of money in your pocket. Let’s face it we’d all like to have plenty of money, wouldn’t we? That’s human nature.

However no amount of money will compensate you for the drudgery of doing a job you hate. If you don’t enjoy what you’re doing, you won’t do it well. And if you don’t do it well eventually you’ll come unstuck. It will all end in tears. Now is that really what you want?

And then you must always remember that one day, like everyone else, you will die. What a shame it would be if on your death bed you felt you’d completely wasted your life.

So find a job you enjoy. If you haven’t found it yet keep looking. Don’t focus on money. Find the right job; do it well and add real value; and the money will follow.

3. Greed can lead to expensive mistakes:

There is a classic telephone scam, which never fails to catch some people out. The way it works is a salesman or woman in a ‘boiler room’ calls you with an offer for you to purchase an asset at a price which they’ll tell you will guarantee you an enormous profit.

It might be stocks and shares or it might be plots of land in some faraway place but the underlying message is always the same. Essentially they’ll tell you that next to no one knows about the availability of this asset just yet but when they do the price of the asset will go through the roof.

They’ll say it’s a steal and that you have the opportunity to get in on the ground floor and make an absolute killing but you have to buy today or you’ll miss out.

The sales people always sound friendly, very plausible and they’ll make it all sound very professional. They’ll even take a little time to make you feel that really they are trustworthy.

This scam plays on our greed and our gullibility. We believe what we’re being told because we want to believe it. We just love the idea that we might get something for nothing.

However if we part with our money that‘s the last we’ll see of it. The asset will be worthless or even non-existent. If we’re foolish enough to buy, we’ll also be put on a ‘sucker list’ which means we’ll get inundated with similar calls from other high-pressure sales people offering similar deals.

In reality any deal that sounds too good to be true, will prove to be too good to be true.

Never allow yourself to fall for it. And never, ever allow yourself to be bounced into buying anything just because they tell you that this deal is only available today.

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7 tips for becoming your best self

Successful people are generally regarded as being the best at whatever they do. However to be the best at what you do you must start with becoming the best person you can be. That is you must be your best self. You must find the hero that lies within you.

There is infinite capacity within you to excel but to realise at least some of it you must work at becoming the exceptional person you really can be. The obvious question is, where do you start?

In this article there are 7 tips to help you become your best self:-

  1. Know your purpose:

If you’re going to be the best person you can be then you cannot just drift through life hoping that it will all just fall into place. It won’t. Nothing happens by accident.

You cannot drift through life with little direction or purpose. Drifting may seem attractive to some but it’s not the way to discover contentment, health and wealth? It never has been and it never will be.

You must determine your life’s purpose or mission. Have a sense of purpose and you will have your own compass that will guide you to your truth north all the time.

  1. Know your values:

What really matters to you? Having a set of values is important. Having a moral code is important too. Civilization is underpinned by values and a moral code. Values are the benchmark against which we measure ourselves and any successes we may achieve.

For instance, achieving success by cheating will not make us feel good about ourselves because we’ll know we loaded the dice and we didn’t play fair. We were dishonest and we’ll know we were dishonest. It can only feel like a real achievement if it was won by a fair fight. A bit of gamesmanship is one thing but cheating is quite another.

So what is it you value most? Make a list of your top three values. Then check your goals against those values. Are your goals congruent with your values? They need to be.

If a goal doesn’t align with any of your top three values then you must get rid of it. Anything you achieve that is inconsistent with your values will not make you feel good about yourself.

You can only recognize you as your best self when you consider yourself against the values that matter most to you.

  1. Know your needs:

Having needs is part of the human condition. Abraham Maslow put it best when he described a hierarchy of needs. Physiological needs, the need for safety and security, the need for love and belonging, the need for self-esteem, and the need for self-actualization.

We all need these things to varying degrees. We all need certainty. However certainty can be boring, so we also need uncertainty or change to spice things up a little. However uncertainty can make us feel insecure which is why we can feel uncomfortable with change.

You will have your own specific needs and it’s important to identify them. If you are to live authentically then the life you live should be consistent with your needs. You can only be you. Anything else would be a fake.

Perhaps attention and recognition are your greatest needs? Perhaps what truly matters most to you is family and friends? Perhaps you have a need to become a mum or a dad? Perhaps you have a burning need to play a musical instrument or to write? Whatever your needs if they remain unmet it will stop you living authentically.

So list your top five needs and make sure any goals you have are consistent with meeting them. Know your needs and make sure you work towards meeting them before it is too late.

  1. Know your passions:

It is often said that the three things we need in life are a passion, a purpose and a pastime.

Passion is important. If you have a passion for what you do, you’ll do it well. If it really matters to you of course you’ll do it well. And if you do it well people will notice. And when people start to notice then demand for your services will increase. And once demand for your services increases then your value will increase. So it’s a virtuous circle.

Knowing what you truly like and enjoy doing is part of really knowing who you are as a person. Knowing your passions allows you to express yourself and to make your own unique contribution to life.

And by express yourself you pay tribute to all those people who inspired you to become the very person you really could be. To become your best self.

  1. Live from the inside out

Your body is the temple in which you will live your entire life.

If that temple is in bad shape then that’s hardly a basis for you becoming your best self, is it? So be in tune with your body and take care of it. Eat sensibly and exercise regularly. Put your physical and mental well-being at the heart of everything you do.

Appreciate the world around you. Stop to smell the roses occasionally. Allow yourself to be in spiritual contact with nature and the world around you.

When you feel stressed and pressured, take the time to breathe deeply. This will help you relax and quiet your distracted mind.

Above all, listen to what your heart is saying. Follow your heart but take your brains with you, of course.

  1. Know your strengths and work to them

Everyone has their own strengths. Natural talent and things we’re very good at.

You’re no different. So what are your strengths? At what do you excel in comparison to other people? Knowing your strengths and working to them is essential if you are to be your best self.

So what positive traits do you possess? What would other people say are your strengths? For what do other people regard you as the ‘go to’ person?

Your authentic self will be expressed best by working to your strengths. If you’re good at what you do then you’ll do it well. And doing it well will increase your self-confidence.

And confidence is an essential ingredient to you being your best self.

  1. Serve others:

Human beings are social animals and we live naturally in groups and society. Being part of society means making a contribution to it. We must all make a contribution particularly if we are striving to be our best self. Living authentic lives means we must develop an interconnected sense of being.

If you’re true to who you are, living your life’s purpose and giving your talents to the world around you then you are providing a service to others. To contribute to society you must serve others in some way. And giving your best is the service you share with others. That is your spirit; your very essence. That is your raison d’etre.

Service to others provides its own rewards. Sharing your gifts with the world can be pleasing indeed. Knowing your contribution was one only you can make can be truly satisfying.

Know you’ve made a real difference and you will have achieved your best self.

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The A – Z Guide to Success

Looking for a guide to success? Then here is a concise A- Z guide of things you will need to bear in mind. Perhaps it’s a little over-simplified but it does cover all the bases.

If you need a guide to success then print this list and pin it above your desk and refer to it constantly:-

  • (A) Achieve your dreams. Avoid negative people, things and places.
  • (B) Believe in yourself and in what you can do.
  • (C) Consider things from every angle. Look at things from both sides.
  • (D) Don’t give up and never give in.
  • (E) Enjoy. Motivation happens when you’re happy with life.
  • (F) Family and Friends. Never, ever lose sight of them.
  • (G) Give more than what you believe is enough.
  • (H) Hold on to your dreams. These should drive you onward and upward.
  • (I) Ignore those who belittle your ambition. If you believe you can, what they think is irrelevant.
  • (J) Just be you. The key to failure is trying to please everyone.
  • (K) Keep trying no matter how hard life may seem.
  • (L) Learn to love yourself. You’re as good as anyone.
  • (M) Make things happen. The harder you work the luckier you’ll get.
  • (N) Never lie, cheat or steal. Always play a fair game.
  • (O) Open your eyes. Be aware of what’s going on around you.
  • (P) Practice makes perfect. Be a student of your craft and work towards mastery.
  • (Q) Quitters never win and winners never quit. Be a winner not a quitter.
  • (R) Ready yourself. Be prepared and be ready when opportunity strikes.
  • (S) Stop procrastinating. Get on with it. It’s later than you hink.
  • (T) Take control of your life. Discipline and self-control are key to success.
  • (U) Understand others. Seek first to understand and then to be understood.
  • (V) Visualize it. What will success look like to you? How will you recognize it?
  • (W) Want it more than anything. It must matter to you if you’re to keep going when it gets hard.
  • (X) X Factor is that little bit of magic that makes you different from all the other wannabes. When you’re truly motivated, you’ll deliver that extra something that will help you shine like a star. Shine like a star and you’ll get noticed. Get noticed and you’re on the way to achieving success.
  • (Y) You are unique. You have special qualities no one else has. So work to your strengths and do the things that only you can do.  That way you will begin to shine like a star.
  • (Z) Zero in on your dreams and just go for it. Don’t stop until you get to where you want to be.

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13 Ways to Increase Your Personal Happiness

You’ll be as happy as you choose to be. Yes, life can be challenging. Yes, life can be full of frustrations and disappointments. Yes, people can drive you nuts. No one’s life is perfect and everyone has problems. However your level of personal happiness will be dictated by how you choose to look at life.

You can let life’s challenges make you feel miserable or you can refuse to let anything get you down. You can just say to yourself, I’m going to be happy and nothing is going to stop me.

You will find that being happy isn’t as hard as it appears to be at times.

Here are 13 ways that will help you increase your sense of personal happiness and make your life much more fulfilling:-

1. Talk to yourself positively:

One of the greatest contributors to unhappiness is what’s going on in your heads. Everyone is prone to self-doubt and feelings of not being quite good enough. Everyone worries about being ‘found out’ in their job. It’s easy to assume that in some way you’re not really very good at what you do and you think eventually someone will notice.

We all struggle to appreciate that we’re better than we think we are and that if we really couldn’t do the work for which we are paid, someone would have noticed already and they would have said something.

Negative self-talk can really grind you down. So stop it now.

Replace negative self-talk with positive self-talk. Tell yourself constantly that you’re better than you think you are that you have every reason to like yourself.

And adopt this as your personal mantra; “I’m as good as anyone and I will show them all that I’m better than most!

Repeat it to yourself frequently and every time even the slightest hint of doubt pops into your mind.

2. Value the people in your life:

Your social network, i.e. the people with whom you interact, and your relationships are essential to your personal happiness. Human beings are social animals. We’re not solitary creatures like cats. We need other people, frustrating as some of them can be at times.

Remember we’re all different. We’re all individuals. So accept people for who they are and what they are. Everyone has many sides to their individual personalities.

So look for the good in people and don’t judge their less flattering side too harshly. Never forget, we all have a less flattering side.

However keep away from personality clashes and arguments. Let go of any resentment you may feel towards individuals. Just remember they’re not perfect, just like you.

If an argument seems inevitable, seek first to understand and then to be understood. By understanding the other person’s point of view and why they feel the way they feel, you just might find you get along with them so much better.

And even if after you’ve listened carefully you decide they’re wrong, so what? You can always agree to disagree. You don’t have to prove you’re right and they’re wrong. It doesn’t have to be about you proving you’re right all the time. Peace and harmony are of much greater value to your personal happiness than being proved right. So just let it go. 

3. Be grateful:

Being grateful for what you have regardless of how small, is an important part of your personal happiness.

Being thankful is a great attitude to develop. If you think about it, I’m sure there will be at least as few things for which you can be truly thankful. Simple things like having a laugh with a friend whilst having a coffee or a meal.

They don’t have to be big things. Little things that put a smile on your face are far more important to your personal happiness than any amount of material possessions.

In fact material possessions don’t make you happy at all. Mostly they’re just a source of stress.

Take the time to thank those people who provide you with even the smallest things. Making a point of saying thank you will help you realize just how abundant your life is in reality. 

4. Avoid doom and gloom:

The media tends to focus on bad news. Unfortunately bad news attracts more attention than good news and media channels are focused on ratings. They make money from eyeballs watching and ears listening. And they’re in the business of making money not cheering you up.

It is a fact that most news is depressing and stressful. With 24 hour rolling news channels our lives are filled with a lot of stuff that can fill us with doom and gloom if we’re not careful.

Watching, listening to, or reading the news will detract from your personal happiness. So, if the news is just a source of doom and gloom then it’s a good idea to get less of it, don’t you think? 

5. Manage your time wisely:

Your time is precious and it should be used and managed wisely.

Just because someone expects a piece of your time doesn’t mean they’re entitled to it. Only you can judge whether they’re worthy of your time. It’s perfectly reasonable to say No if you think that’s appropriate.

No one has an unlimited amount of time. We all have just 168 hours per week. We all must make the most of our time because time is far too important to waste.

If someone requests a piece of your time then make sure they have a very good reason to justify it. Otherwise just say No politely but very firmly.

It’s your life, so live it your way. 

6. Find something to make you laugh each day:

Life is far too short to be serious all the time. Occasionally we need to laugh to alleviate our stress levels.

Laughter is the best medicine, or so they say. And it’s true. A good laugh can really cheer you up. So make sure you enjoy a good laugh at least once a day. It may be your favourite sitcom or a funny animal video on YouTube. Whatever puts a smile on your face then that’s fine. You need to smile because it will help you relax.

It may be a funny joke that makes you laugh. If that happens, remember to share the joke with family and friends. That way you get another laugh twice. Once when you hear it and once when you share it.

Laugh and laugh vigorously every single day. 

7. Let people know what they mean to you:

If people matter to you then be sure to let them know occasionally.

Don’t be afraid to communicate your feelings, affections, friendship and passion to people around you.

Being open about your feelings is not a sign of weakness it’s a sign of strength. It’s a sign that you’re confident enough in yourself to let people know what they mean to you.

It’s a sign that you recognise how important it is for people to know that they matter to you. They’ll appreciate it and that will enhance the bond between you. 

8. Don’t bottle up your negative emotions:

Pent-up feelings of anger and frustration are bad for your health. Yes, we all feel angry occasionally but suppressing it is counter-productive.

If you’re not happy about something it’s better to say so. Occasionally you may need to say so forcefully too. However never say it in a way that is mean and hurtful.

And if you do say something which you later recognise as mean and hurtful then apologise. You won’t be the first person to say something you later regret but don’t compound the offence but failing to offer a sincere apology. At the very least that will show you’re big enough to recognise when you’re in the wrong.

If you can learn to express your anger and frustration in a way that will not cause injury or hurt to anyone then you’ll be on the road to being a very decent human being. 

9. Have a sense of purpose:

It’s important to have a sense of purpose. To work each day at something in which you excel and which gets you out of bed in the morning.

Working hard at something you love can bring you great personal contentment. Your work is your contribution to society and potentially the legacy you leave behind. For instance, John Lennon left a wonderful collection of songs that we still listen today almost 40 years after his death. That’s a fantastic legacy.

Work gives you a sense that you have the capability to finish tasks. Work is a source of satisfaction when you take on a challenge and use your skills and knowhow to complete it. In this way you grow in character.

Through your work you use your time profitably and when the working day is done you feel you’ve earned your rest and recreation.

Work well done and a sense of purpose will make you feel good about yourself. 

10. Never stop learning:

Learning does not finish when you leave school or college. Learning is a lifelong process. And it does not necessarily involve formal tuition.

You can be self-taught and learn by doing. You can read books and watch instructional DVDs or videos on YouTube. You can listen to audiobooks in your car or whilst travelling on public transport.

Be a committed student of your chosen craft. Work constantly towards achieving mastery. Learning is a joyful exercise, particularly if it’s a subject you love.

You add value through your skills. The more skills you have the more value you add. So learn something new each and every day.

And remember; learning will also broaden your horizons. Learning is a positive experience, so never stop learning. 

11. The power of faith:

Faith can be a great comfort in times of trial. Believing there is some higher power helps us to appreciate our place within the universe. We are nothing more than specs of dust in a great cosmic cloud.

Faith can add discipline to your life. Whichever faith you choose is not important. However being part of a spiritual group with its singing, sacraments, chanting, prayers and meditations encourages inner peace and personal wellbeing. It also encourages the idea of service and putting others first.

Never underestimate the power of faith. 

12. Don’t let pollution take its toll on you:

Pollution comes in many forms but it all takes its toll of your personal happiness and wellbeing.

Life is full of toxins, hazardous places, loud noises, light pollution and much more.

Minimise your exposure to these negative elements because they are an assault on your senses and they’re not good for you if you’re over-exposed to them. 

13. Regular exercise improves your health and wellbeing:

A sedentary lifestyle is not healthy for anyone.

Our bodies were built for movement. So exercise daily. That doesn’t mean you must go to the gym It doesn’t mean you must participate is formal sports teams or clubs.

You can exercise in simple ways like running, jogging, or a brisk walk. Even if you’re just taking your dog for a walk then that is exercise too. Alternatively perhaps you could walk to and from work rather than using your care or public transport.

Just do what your body was made for and you will feel a bit more alive.

Conclusion:

You can choose to be happy or not. There’s nothing to be gained by being miserable and a sense of personal happiness is better for your health and wellbeing. So choose to be happy and develop habits that will lead you to a state of personal happiness. It’s not easy of course and it takes work but it’s well worth the effort.

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