7 tips for becoming your best self


Successful people are generally regarded as being the best at whatever they do. However to be the best at what you do you must start with becoming the best person you can be. That is you must be your best self. You must find the hero that lies within you.

There is infinite capacity within you to excel but to realise at least some of it you must work at becoming the exceptional person you really can be. The obvious question is, where do you start?

In this article there are 7 tips to help you become your best self:-

  1. Know your purpose:

If you’re going to be the best person you can be then you cannot just drift through life hoping that it will all just fall into place. It won’t. Nothing happens by accident.

You cannot drift through life with little direction or purpose. Drifting may seem attractive to some but it’s not the way to discover contentment, health and wealth? It never has been and it never will be.

You must determine your life’s purpose or mission. Have a sense of purpose and you will have your own compass that will guide you to your truth north all the time.

  1. Know your values:

What really matters to you? Having a set of values is important. Having a moral code is important too. Civilization is underpinned by values and a moral code. Values are the benchmark against which we measure ourselves and any successes we may achieve.

For instance, achieving success by cheating will not make us feel good about ourselves because we’ll know we loaded the dice and we didn’t play fair. We were dishonest and we’ll know we were dishonest. It can only feel like a real achievement if it was won by a fair fight. A bit of gamesmanship is one thing but cheating is quite another.

So what is it you value most? Make a list of your top three values. Then check your goals against those values. Are your goals congruent with your values? They need to be.

If a goal doesn’t align with any of your top three values then you must get rid of it. Anything you achieve that is inconsistent with your values will not make you feel good about yourself.

You can only recognize you as your best self when you consider yourself against the values that matter most to you.

  1. Know your needs:

Having needs is part of the human condition. Abraham Maslow put it best when he described a hierarchy of needs. Physiological needs, the need for safety and security, the need for love and belonging, the need for self-esteem, and the need for self-actualization.

We all need these things to varying degrees. We all need certainty. However certainty can be boring, so we also need uncertainty or change to spice things up a little. However uncertainty can make us feel insecure which is why we can feel uncomfortable with change.

You will have your own specific needs and it’s important to identify them. If you are to live authentically then the life you live should be consistent with your needs. You can only be you. Anything else would be a fake.

Perhaps attention and recognition are your greatest needs? Perhaps what truly matters most to you is family and friends? Perhaps you have a need to become a mum or a dad? Perhaps you have a burning need to play a musical instrument or to write? Whatever your needs if they remain unmet it will stop you living authentically.

So list your top five needs and make sure any goals you have are consistent with meeting them. Know your needs and make sure you work towards meeting them before it is too late.

  1. Know your passions:

It is often said that the three things we need in life are a passion, a purpose and a pastime.

Passion is important. If you have a passion for what you do, you’ll do it well. If it really matters to you of course you’ll do it well. And if you do it well people will notice. And when people start to notice then demand for your services will increase. And once demand for your services increases then your value will increase. So it’s a virtuous circle.

Knowing what you truly like and enjoy doing is part of really knowing who you are as a person. Knowing your passions allows you to express yourself and to make your own unique contribution to life.

And by express yourself you pay tribute to all those people who inspired you to become the very person you really could be. To become your best self.

  1. Live from the inside out

Your body is the temple in which you will live your entire life.

If that temple is in bad shape then that’s hardly a basis for you becoming your best self, is it? So be in tune with your body and take care of it. Eat sensibly and exercise regularly. Put your physical and mental well-being at the heart of everything you do.

Appreciate the world around you. Stop to smell the roses occasionally. Allow yourself to be in spiritual contact with nature and the world around you.

When you feel stressed and pressured, take the time to breathe deeply. This will help you relax and quiet your distracted mind.

Above all, listen to what your heart is saying. Follow your heart but take your brains with you, of course.

  1. Know your strengths and work to them

Everyone has their own strengths. Natural talent and things we’re very good at.

You’re no different. So what are your strengths? At what do you excel in comparison to other people? Knowing your strengths and working to them is essential if you are to be your best self.

So what positive traits do you possess? What would other people say are your strengths? For what do other people regard you as the ‘go to’ person?

Your authentic self will be expressed best by working to your strengths. If you’re good at what you do then you’ll do it well. And doing it well will increase your self-confidence.

And confidence is an essential ingredient to you being your best self.

  1. Serve others:

Human beings are social animals and we live naturally in groups and society. Being part of society means making a contribution to it. We must all make a contribution particularly if we are striving to be our best self. Living authentic lives means we must develop an interconnected sense of being.

If you’re true to who you are, living your life’s purpose and giving your talents to the world around you then you are providing a service to others. To contribute to society you must serve others in some way. And giving your best is the service you share with others. That is your spirit; your very essence. That is your raison d’etre.

Service to others provides its own rewards. Sharing your gifts with the world can be pleasing indeed. Knowing your contribution was one only you can make can be truly satisfying.

Know you’ve made a real difference and you will have achieved your best self.

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