13 Ways to Increase Your Personal Happiness


You’ll be as happy as you choose to be. Yes, life can be challenging. Yes, life can be full of frustrations and disappointments. Yes, people can drive you nuts. No one’s life is perfect and everyone has problems. However your level of personal happiness will be dictated by how you choose to look at life.

You can let life’s challenges make you feel miserable or you can refuse to let anything get you down. You can just say to yourself, I’m going to be happy and nothing is going to stop me.

You will find that being happy isn’t as hard as it appears to be at times.

Here are 13 ways that will help you increase your sense of personal happiness and make your life much more fulfilling:-

1. Talk to yourself positively:

One of the greatest contributors to unhappiness is what’s going on in your heads. Everyone is prone to self-doubt and feelings of not being quite good enough. Everyone worries about being ‘found out’ in their job. It’s easy to assume that in some way you’re not really very good at what you do and you think eventually someone will notice.

We all struggle to appreciate that we’re better than we think we are and that if we really couldn’t do the work for which we are paid, someone would have noticed already and they would have said something.

Negative self-talk can really grind you down. So stop it now.

Replace negative self-talk with positive self-talk. Tell yourself constantly that you’re better than you think you are that you have every reason to like yourself.

And adopt this as your personal mantra; “I’m as good as anyone and I will show them all that I’m better than most!

Repeat it to yourself frequently and every time even the slightest hint of doubt pops into your mind.

2. Value the people in your life:

Your social network, i.e. the people with whom you interact, and your relationships are essential to your personal happiness. Human beings are social animals. We’re not solitary creatures like cats. We need other people, frustrating as some of them can be at times.

Remember we’re all different. We’re all individuals. So accept people for who they are and what they are. Everyone has many sides to their individual personalities.

So look for the good in people and don’t judge their less flattering side too harshly. Never forget, we all have a less flattering side.

However keep away from personality clashes and arguments. Let go of any resentment you may feel towards individuals. Just remember they’re not perfect, just like you.

If an argument seems inevitable, seek first to understand and then to be understood. By understanding the other person’s point of view and why they feel the way they feel, you just might find you get along with them so much better.

And even if after you’ve listened carefully you decide they’re wrong, so what? You can always agree to disagree. You don’t have to prove you’re right and they’re wrong. It doesn’t have to be about you proving you’re right all the time. Peace and harmony are of much greater value to your personal happiness than being proved right. So just let it go. 

3. Be grateful:

Being grateful for what you have regardless of how small, is an important part of your personal happiness.

Being thankful is a great attitude to develop. If you think about it, I’m sure there will be at least as few things for which you can be truly thankful. Simple things like having a laugh with a friend whilst having a coffee or a meal.

They don’t have to be big things. Little things that put a smile on your face are far more important to your personal happiness than any amount of material possessions.

In fact material possessions don’t make you happy at all. Mostly they’re just a source of stress.

Take the time to thank those people who provide you with even the smallest things. Making a point of saying thank you will help you realize just how abundant your life is in reality. 

4. Avoid doom and gloom:

The media tends to focus on bad news. Unfortunately bad news attracts more attention than good news and media channels are focused on ratings. They make money from eyeballs watching and ears listening. And they’re in the business of making money not cheering you up.

It is a fact that most news is depressing and stressful. With 24 hour rolling news channels our lives are filled with a lot of stuff that can fill us with doom and gloom if we’re not careful.

Watching, listening to, or reading the news will detract from your personal happiness. So, if the news is just a source of doom and gloom then it’s a good idea to get less of it, don’t you think? 

5. Manage your time wisely:

Your time is precious and it should be used and managed wisely.

Just because someone expects a piece of your time doesn’t mean they’re entitled to it. Only you can judge whether they’re worthy of your time. It’s perfectly reasonable to say No if you think that’s appropriate.

No one has an unlimited amount of time. We all have just 168 hours per week. We all must make the most of our time because time is far too important to waste.

If someone requests a piece of your time then make sure they have a very good reason to justify it. Otherwise just say No politely but very firmly.

It’s your life, so live it your way. 

6. Find something to make you laugh each day:

Life is far too short to be serious all the time. Occasionally we need to laugh to alleviate our stress levels.

Laughter is the best medicine, or so they say. And it’s true. A good laugh can really cheer you up. So make sure you enjoy a good laugh at least once a day. It may be your favourite sitcom or a funny animal video on YouTube. Whatever puts a smile on your face then that’s fine. You need to smile because it will help you relax.

It may be a funny joke that makes you laugh. If that happens, remember to share the joke with family and friends. That way you get another laugh twice. Once when you hear it and once when you share it.

Laugh and laugh vigorously every single day. 

7. Let people know what they mean to you:

If people matter to you then be sure to let them know occasionally.

Don’t be afraid to communicate your feelings, affections, friendship and passion to people around you.

Being open about your feelings is not a sign of weakness it’s a sign of strength. It’s a sign that you’re confident enough in yourself to let people know what they mean to you.

It’s a sign that you recognise how important it is for people to know that they matter to you. They’ll appreciate it and that will enhance the bond between you. 

8. Don’t bottle up your negative emotions:

Pent-up feelings of anger and frustration are bad for your health. Yes, we all feel angry occasionally but suppressing it is counter-productive.

If you’re not happy about something it’s better to say so. Occasionally you may need to say so forcefully too. However never say it in a way that is mean and hurtful.

And if you do say something which you later recognise as mean and hurtful then apologise. You won’t be the first person to say something you later regret but don’t compound the offence but failing to offer a sincere apology. At the very least that will show you’re big enough to recognise when you’re in the wrong.

If you can learn to express your anger and frustration in a way that will not cause injury or hurt to anyone then you’ll be on the road to being a very decent human being. 

9. Have a sense of purpose:

It’s important to have a sense of purpose. To work each day at something in which you excel and which gets you out of bed in the morning.

Working hard at something you love can bring you great personal contentment. Your work is your contribution to society and potentially the legacy you leave behind. For instance, John Lennon left a wonderful collection of songs that we still listen today almost 40 years after his death. That’s a fantastic legacy.

Work gives you a sense that you have the capability to finish tasks. Work is a source of satisfaction when you take on a challenge and use your skills and knowhow to complete it. In this way you grow in character.

Through your work you use your time profitably and when the working day is done you feel you’ve earned your rest and recreation.

Work well done and a sense of purpose will make you feel good about yourself. 

10. Never stop learning:

Learning does not finish when you leave school or college. Learning is a lifelong process. And it does not necessarily involve formal tuition.

You can be self-taught and learn by doing. You can read books and watch instructional DVDs or videos on YouTube. You can listen to audiobooks in your car or whilst travelling on public transport.

Be a committed student of your chosen craft. Work constantly towards achieving mastery. Learning is a joyful exercise, particularly if it’s a subject you love.

You add value through your skills. The more skills you have the more value you add. So learn something new each and every day.

And remember; learning will also broaden your horizons. Learning is a positive experience, so never stop learning. 

11. The power of faith:

Faith can be a great comfort in times of trial. Believing there is some higher power helps us to appreciate our place within the universe. We are nothing more than specs of dust in a great cosmic cloud.

Faith can add discipline to your life. Whichever faith you choose is not important. However being part of a spiritual group with its singing, sacraments, chanting, prayers and meditations encourages inner peace and personal wellbeing. It also encourages the idea of service and putting others first.

Never underestimate the power of faith. 

12. Don’t let pollution take its toll on you:

Pollution comes in many forms but it all takes its toll of your personal happiness and wellbeing.

Life is full of toxins, hazardous places, loud noises, light pollution and much more.

Minimise your exposure to these negative elements because they are an assault on your senses and they’re not good for you if you’re over-exposed to them. 

13. Regular exercise improves your health and wellbeing:

A sedentary lifestyle is not healthy for anyone.

Our bodies were built for movement. So exercise daily. That doesn’t mean you must go to the gym It doesn’t mean you must participate is formal sports teams or clubs.

You can exercise in simple ways like running, jogging, or a brisk walk. Even if you’re just taking your dog for a walk then that is exercise too. Alternatively perhaps you could walk to and from work rather than using your care or public transport.

Just do what your body was made for and you will feel a bit more alive.

Conclusion:

You can choose to be happy or not. There’s nothing to be gained by being miserable and a sense of personal happiness is better for your health and wellbeing. So choose to be happy and develop habits that will lead you to a state of personal happiness. It’s not easy of course and it takes work but it’s well worth the effort.

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